- by Not Ready for Marriage
- February 25, 2022
Dear Chad,
My boyfriend has been hinting about getting me to propose. I don't want to get married anytime soon, but he'd be the one if I had to. What should I do?
- Not Ready for Marriage
Dear Not Ready for Marriage,
“If you had to?” Gurl…marriage isn’t an obligation. I’ve known (and slept with) gays who’ve been married happily for over a decade, I’ve known gays who have been in a relationship for twenty years who never got married, AND I’ve known gays who have divorced after being married for three years. Being together isn’t the same for everyone. Just because we can get married doesn’t mean we should. THAT GOES FOR THE STRAIGHTS TOO. If you feel obligated to propose, then it’s not coming from a good place. If this is a line in the sand for your boo, then it’s time to have THAT conversation. If you aren’t looking for the same thing, maybe it’s time to cut ties and if you aren’t feeling wedding bliss, then maybe he isn’t the one. Also, why is he hinting for YOU to propose? He’s a man with balls (I’m assuming) – he probably doesn’t want to be the one to propose because you will probably say no. Oh gurrrllll…I’d only get married for a reality show like 90 Day Fiance or some bullshit like that. That being said, I am a registered officiant and I can perform the ceremony…then perform on your husband for the honeymoon. Bloop!