The Art of Being A Dom Top

The Art of Being A Dom Top

It really is a huge letdown when you meet a guy who is just giving off big dick energy, all you want to do is turn into a power sub, and you finally get to the bedroom to succumb and it turns out that he has no clue how to be a dom top. Sigh. Many guys talk the big talk but are unable to fulfill our dom top fantasies. Well, we have some pointers to share if you get into the mood to swing it hard and be a dom in the bedroom. We did the research and plenty of rehearsal sessions with good tops to get all of our data. It's a tough job, but we are glad to do it!

Open Your Mouth

We love being directed in the bedroom. Tell us to take off our clothes, tell us to bend over, tell us to take it deep. We like commands, it is a total turn-on for a sub. But also, check in with us. Make sure we are enjoying the session as well.

Don't Be A Jerk

Being a dom top is a state of mind. Many guys think acting like a dick means you are acting dom. Nope. It is all about confidence, an attitude, a strength in your style and intention, not just being a mean girl. It is a total turn-off when the guy thinks treating a sub badly is the way to exude dominance. Hard pass! This also goes with having too much ego. Dom tops who spend more time flexing in the mirror than rimming you? Nope!

Dress It Up

They say that clothes make the man. We love a dom top who knows how to dress the part. Rugged, tight jeans? Flannel? Leather harness? Ball cap? Leather jockstrap and boots? Butch it up, dom top! This can also be said about the set decoration. Are you a dom top who hosts? Put away the stuffed animals and flowered bedspread. Latex sheets, musk-scented candles, towels and lube ready, sex toys? It all adds to the fantasy.

It's A Two Person Job

We want you to dominate all parts of us - our body, our senses, our mind. That being said, a good dom top doesn't just make it all about them. We love for you to take control but we are part of the equation as well and we should be getting pleasure out of it. It isn't just about topping us, kiss us hard, rim us, embrace us, make all of our senses fire up. So many dom tops think it is just all about them and that's how they show dominance...nope!

Be Good At Sex

We've also been let down by so-called dom tops when all they know how to do in the bedroom is thrust back and forth like a broken robot. Know how to top. Know how to hit our spot. Know how to move your hips. Know how to rim us to ecstasy. If you have an inkling that you are bad in bed, get educated. Read up on some sex tips books, practice makes perfect, and try some new moves out in the bedroom. We are expecting you to know your way around a sub's body and know how to give it good. That is part of the fantasy. This especially goes if you are into kink. A dom top who doesn't know how to get kinky is pretty much useless to us.

Now, go out and be that dom top that you know you can be!

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