What To Do When the Sex Just Isn’t Good: All About Gay Sex

What To Do When the Sex Just Isn't Good: All About Gay Sex

Sometimes we meet someone amazing and everything about the guy just seems right. He's stable, he's fun, he's handsome, and it just is a good fit. Until it comes to the bedroom. Sometimes we find the perfect guy but the sex is just terrible or it just isn't compatible. What's a gay to do in that instance? Is a good relationship worth more than just hot sex? Or can a relationship work without the sexual component? Men are horny in nature, but a gay man? It seems like if the sex isn't working, we just can't do it. Also, sometimes the sex gets stale as the relationship goes on, and being intimate with your partner happens less and less. How do you salvage the relationship?

Sexual incompatibility happens when sexual positions, desires, fantasies, horniness levels, and moods are on different pages. So much so that even attempting sex is arduous and often leaves the couple resentful and disappointed. Sex can be a very important part of a relationship, as the intimacy builds a connection with your partner. There is trust and passion that occurs in the bedroom. The key to overcoming sexual incompatibility issues is communication. What isn't working? What do you desire from your partner in the bedroom? Being open and honest about sexual issues can help a couple get through periods of bad times in bed. You also need to be open to what your partner's desires are. Find some common ground and what you both like, and start with the basics to get back into the swing of things.

Open relationships have become very popular in gay culture. It doesn't seem shocking to find out a couple will open up their relationship for a threesome or even allow their partner to explore sexually with other partners. Having an open relationship can take care of some of the bedroom issues. But open relationships only work when there is honesty, agreed-upon rules, and communication. And open relationships don't work for everybody but can help if your sexual needs aren't being met. But just opening your relationship shouldn't be done to avoid issues. You still need to talk about why bedroom activity isn't working.

Long-term relationships are bound to have sex issues from time to time. Stress, financial struggles, hormone changes, and body issues can all affect bedroom activity. If sex is truly a major sticking point to your relationship, try couple therapy before throwing in the towel. Sex issues may have nothing to do with sex itself, but other issues you may be having with your partner. Talking through it with a therapist may help work through your issues.

Some relationship therapists suggest playing sex games to get back on track in the bedroom. Anything from sex bingo to sex card games and truth or dare can put some fun back in the bedroom and allow for a light-hearted way to communicate desires.

Are you in a sexually incompatible relationship? How are you working through it?

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