RC & Digger’s Top 5 Tips for Managing Your Open Relationship

5 Tips For Managing Your Open Relationship

RC (Ryan Carter) and husband Digger have become the dynamic duo of fucking. Their self-produced content is fire and features passionate duos, threesomes, foursomes, and more with some of the hottest, most diverse partners you can imagine. What started as an initial request to appear in a friend’s fan page scene has sparked an entire brand that has made an indelible mark on the user-generated content world.

Ryan is completely versatile and has performed in more than 400 fans videos as both top and bottom. His first studio scene was bottoming for legendary top stud Drew Sebastian in “Lost Dads” by Pantheon Productions. He has also done many studio movies and scenes for Iconmale, NastyDaddy, Treasure Island Media, BarebackThatHole, and Raw Fuck Club.

Both Ryan and his husband Digger have been nominated for multiple adult entertainment awards, including their most recent nominations for the Fleshbot Awards for Best Fansite Presence and Best Social Media Personality. (You can vote for them here: VOTE NOW )

From the start, this hotter than hot couple decided to have an open relationship. They stopped by Cybersocket to give us their Top 5 Tips for Managing Your Open Relationship.

Be honest!

Not only with your partner but with yourself. You have to tell your partner when something works and doesn’t work. The ability to successfully negotiate becomes crucial and flows from knowing yourself and being honest with yourself and your partner. In an open relationship, you are constantly creating and affirming trust and safety, and honesty is at the core of this process.

Don’t judge.

Open relationships by their nature have more moving parts and more chances for your shame to come up. But on the plus side, there are many more opportunities to explore different aspects of your sexuality. Being open to new experiences is critical. But don’t shame your partner - or yourself - for wanting something out of the box. If you shame your partner for their kinks, you can really damage the safety that you’ve been trying to build for your open relationship to work.

Boundaries.

Set your limits where you’re comfortable. Move slowly at first, and then build upon what works. Know that your boundaries are going to shift and change as you go along, this is normal. What works when you first start being open may no longer work later on. Try to give each other the grace to make mistakes. Forgiveness and allowing each other to be ‘clumsy’ can really take you miles.

Anticipate problems.

This flows from boundaries and honesty. Try to look forward about how you might feel about something and talk about it. You won’t always get it right, and that’s ok. Sometimes we can see forward that something won’t work. Trust your gut if something is really not your thing and that you won’t be okay with.

COMMUNICATE!

This is the most important tip. Don't wait for your resentment to build until you say something. Open lines of communication are critical to a successful open relationship. Tell your partner what you’re feeling sooner rather than later. It can be a hard conversation to have, but the rewards far outweigh that weird feeling that comes with talking about sex. Intimacy is more than just fucking, it’s more about being open, close, honest, and vulnerable.

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