Ask Chad Love and Dating: Confused Husbands, Boners, and Sex Clubs!

Confused Husbands, Boners, and Sex Clubs!

Well! February is finally over. Did anyone else think the month lasted forever? I hope you all celebrated Leap Day by getting some leaping in…if you know what I mean. Now that it’s March, hopefully the weather will start heating up and we’ll be seeing more skin around town…although I will miss grey sweatpant season.

Anywayyyy, keep those questions coming in, Sexy Bitches, I love reading them! Just like my Sniffies profile says, nothing is off limits: [email protected]

Dear Chad,

My husband and I have been together for 8 years. Now, out of the blue, he wants to start having conversations about having a kid. A kid? That was never in our mindset and I don’t want any. The conversation is starting to get heated, and now his family is pushing for it too. What should I do?

Confused Husband

Dear Confused Husband,

A kid? Gross. Run, don’t walk away. Kids ruin everything, especially Disneyland. LOL! Seriously though, this could be a major roadblock for your marriage. Having kids is a big decision and will undoubtedly change your entire life and relationship. If you don’t want to have any, there’s really nothing he or his family can do to change your mind. Bringing a kid into a household when you don’t want one is not fair to anyone. I suggest you and your hubby go seek counseling and work out a discussion with a qualified, third party. If he keeps insisting, then you could be headed for a major breakup. Why don’t you just get a cute little dog instead? Less messy.

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Hey Chad,

The guy I’m seeing thinks it would be hot to go to a sex club together. I really don’t want to, that kind of action doesn’t do it for me and I’m nervous my guy is really into it or would get into it more if I allowed it. I don’t like the idea of public sex, and if he is into that that is not somebody I want to date. Does that make me a prude?

Prude Partner

Dear Prude Partner,

Tell him to call me, I’ll take him. LOL. No, it doesn’t make you a prude necessarily, it just means you have different sexual tastes and kinks. Unfortunately, these kinds of differences can cause a big rift in a relationship, especially if you guys are just starting out. If it’s not your thing, it’s not your thing. If you don’t want to date someone who is into that, you’re going to have to tell him. He may abstain in order to date you, or he might go on his own and keep it from you, or he could just tell you it’s not going to work out. That being said, I have been to sex clubs with a partner and it can be pretty fun if you set rules and communication in advance. If he is insisting on it, why not try it once to see what it’s all about? Or just call it a day and go date a Mormon.

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Dear Chad,

I have started jerking off at work on my breaks. I just get the urge mid-morning or in the afternoon and I get hard at my desk and have to relieve it. I feel weird doing it at work, but what else am I supposed to do? Sit at my desk with a raging hard-on? Help!

Office Jerker

Dear Office Jerker,

Where do you work? I’ll stop by and lend a helping hand. LOL! Sounds like you have some extra testosterone giving you the urges! I’m jealous. The only thing I would worry about is getting caught, can you imagine your office nickname if someone found out? Ha ha! What I would try and do is wake up a little bit earlier and have yourself a jack-off marathon before heading to work. Go for multiple times and see if that alleviates some of the midday urges. If that doesn’t work, I don’t know what to tell you other than be discrete! Good luck! I want to know how it all works out.